Kenneth having fun with his participants

From my experience, I have come to know many people who know what they do not like, however, not many people know what they like and what really drives them in life. There are a lot of people who work with a lack of passion or have values that clash with their job scope. This results in a lot of unhappy people.

The question then is “How do you know what you are passionate about?”

Here are some questions that will help you:

1. What are the three words that describe you?
2. What are the things that you really like to do, without getting paid, for long hours?
3. What are the three things in life that makes you frustrated?
4. What are some talents that people say you have?
5. What is your perfect world like?

I truly believe that when you are able to answer the above questions truthfully, your next step is to identify whether there are links between each question and attempt to put them together. Here’s my personal mission statement:

My life purpose is to teach and inspire people to have fun, loving and supportive relationships.

When I see people enjoying their relationships and having fun in the work environment or at home, it gives me tremendous pleasure! This is one of the reasons why I conduct many transformational teambuilding and people related programs. In addition, I give key note address in seminars and conduct talks as well in the people management area. Do not fall into the trap and pursue other peoples’ dreams. I have seen many people trying to enroll themselves in different programs when it is not in line with their personal values and mission.

So, I hope that you will make a conscious decision to identify what you are passionate about and go for it, rather than go through life talking about the things that you don’t like to do.

What’s your passion? Do share it with me in the comments box!

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If you have watched the show Bucket List, you will know that it is a show about 2 men who have been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Instead of lying down in a hospital ward and wait for their impending doom, they escape and head off in a road trip to accomplish a list of “To-Dos” list before they die.

One of the characters, Carter, writes a “bucket list”, or a list of things to do before he “kicks the bucket” (or die in plain English). To me the best part of the show is that they decided to really live life to the full and chase their dreams. This took a lot of courage and determination. Moreover, it made me cry.

One thing that totally struck me was that these two guys were really living and very different from many people in today’s society where a lot of people feel that dreams and reality are two opposing  forces. I started to ask myself, what will I really want to accomplish before I die:

Here’s my bucket list:

• Go skydiving
• Finish an iron man competition
• Learn polo
• Be proficient in mandarin
• Speak to a crowd of at least 5000 people
• Drive a race car and speed (really speed at 210kmh)
• Travel around the world for 3 months straight
• See the Grand Canyon
• Be part of the Oktober Fest in Germany
• Be driven into the Istana and have a drink with the president
• Talk to multinational CEOs from Fortune 500 companies
• See Christ Redeemer in Brazil

So… my question, will you start living and pursue your bucket list? Will you leave your comments and share your bucket list?

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Have you ever offended people by your speech or actions? Well, I don’t know about you, but I have done that many times and I am not proud of it. What do you do when you feel you need to apologize?

Here is the 4 step process that I use that has benefited me tremendously when I need to apologise:

1. Realize and admit that you am wrong

Apologizing first has to start with you fully accepting that you are in the wrong. You will not be congruent in your apology when you refuse to see that its your fault. Restoration of relationships can only when someone admits their mistake.

2. Be sincere and specific about your mistake

Clearly list down what are the mistakes you are apologetic about and be sincere about it. Be very clear in why you need to apologize, what you are apologizing for and that you treasure your relationship more than your pride.

3. Pause

After you have said what you need to say, give a short pause to your apology. This will help the other person to process what you have said. If you keep talking, most people will not be able to remember the key words in your apology.

4. Ask what can you do to make things better

Lastly, ask the offended party what you can do right now to appease their anger. This helps to show that you are willing to make atonement for your mistakes.

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